EDUC-6165: Who am I as a Communicator

 

Thinking and studying the assignment this week, I have noticed that my perception of what a good communicator should be has expanded. It allowed me to see my communication skills with other people and how people perceive me. My awareness of being a competent communicator emphasized, thanks to the differences between my score and others' scores.

I first made the three evaluations for myself and then compared the results to my ex-colleague and brother's result. What surprised me most was that I am in group 1, for all three assessment scores in listening styles. The way I listen to empathy and emotion helps me build relationships, but it reflects that it can interfere with judging correctly. However, I had thought that my listening styles in my professional life tend to be action-oriented or content-oriented (Rubin et al., 2009).

When I took the Communication anxiety inventory results are, I expected it to be much higher. My results were moderate, indicating that I was somewhat worried about the number of communication contexts, but probably not for all. This midpoint communication anxiety is what we call "situational"(Rubin et al., 2009). This surprised me because I know that I am good at communicating with small groups, although my anxiety is very high in large groups. Communication with young children or teens is not a problem, but I avoid speaking in front of groups as being an adult has always been a problem for me.

In terms of the verbal aggression scale, one of the people who evaluated my score and thought that I was respectful to others' perspectives and intelligence and gave a "low" score. The other evaluator gave the same score as me, and It showed my perception of myself on the verbal aggression scale was moderate. It shows that it maintains the right balance between respecting others and pointing to the other person's speech content rather than attacking the person themself (Rubin et al., 2009).

After completing these three reviews, I got a lot of ideas about communication this week. One of the most important insights I have gained is to respect the perspectives in the close circle (family, spouse, friend) relations; that it is necessary to think more about them in communication; I realized that I had to improve myself in order not to attack their thoughts, to argue reasonably. However, my score indicates that I need to be respectful and understand others' perspectives, develop the ability to discuss politely without attacking the person's realities with whom I communicate, and establish a balance regarding this situation. These studies allowed me to reflect on my communication skills and diagrams and gain an honest insight into how other people perceive me.

 

 

Rubin, R. B., Palmgreen, P., & Sypher, H. E. (Eds.) (2009). Communication research measures: A sourcebook. New York: Routledge.

Rubin, R. B., Rubin, A. M., Graham, E. E., Perse, E. M., & Seibold, D. R. (Eds.) (2009). Communication research measures II: A sourcebook. New York: Routledge.